When the Two of You Stopped Feeling Like a Team
Everybody Has Advice for You
Your friends say every couple hits a rough patch.
Your mother says it's just a season.
Someone at work says the two of you need to communicate better.
They all mean well, and the advice stops at your front door.
Your House Knows Something That Advice Doesn't
Inside it there's an argument you've both had so many times you know your own lines.
Or there's no argument left at all, just the two of you running a household like courteous roommates.
Either way, something between you has gone quiet and stayed quiet.
Couples Therapy Is for You If Any of This Sounds Like Your House
- The same argument keeps coming back and never lands anywhere
- Talking has gone careful, or it's gone silent altogether
- You feel more like roommates than partners
- A baby, a move, a new job or a loss has knocked the two of you off balance
- Trust took a hit and you want to work through it
- You're unsure where the relationship is headed and you want clarity
Any one of those is reason enough, and the earlier the two of you walk in, the less there is to undo.
Both of Your Versions Are Going to Count
The work happens in person in Cedar Knolls, and online across New Jersey and New York.
There are two true accounts of what's been happening at home, and neither of you has to soften yours to be taken seriously here.
Whose fault it is turns out to be the least useful question we could ask.
We're after the cycle the two of you get caught in, and that cycle has both of your handwriting on it.
Practice Something Different Right There in the Room
We pay attention to what's going on between you in the moment, while it's live.
We listen for the feeling sitting underneath the argument, because that's what the argument is actually about.
We also trace where each half of the cycle began, back through what each of you carried in long before you met.
Then you practice, trying a different way of talking to each other while it's happening, with us right there.
What the Two of You Walk Out With
What you can build here is your own read on what keeps happening between you, and a way to interrupt it while it's still going.
From there, the two of you decide together how you want to move forward.
Your friends will still have opinions about your relationship.
The two of you will have better ones.
Bring Both of Your Answers
We'll ask what's bringing the two of you in right now, and your two answers don't have to match.
That's the whole first conversation.
It takes about fifteen minutes on the phone, at no cost to either of you.
Make that call together: (973) 532-2149.
Make the Rest of the Week Feel Like the Weekend
You already know what's possible, because you've felt it, on a good Saturday or in a quieter moment with yourself. Let's build toward more of that, on more solid ground than you're standing on now.
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